Posts Tagged ‘Passion’

…it’s not supposed to be like this

June 24, 2012 1 comment

How is it that we have a certain mental construct of a situation in our heads and all of a sudden it becomes providence? So much so, as we base decisions on a situation that we have the illusion, will only have a singular outcome. I often refer, in conversations, to playing a constant game of mental chess. This game constantly has me analyzing and re-analyzing situations and mapping potential outcomes – a consistent mental decision tree. This is most annoying, but I cannot help it – I have been doing this since I was a child.

My point is not to assume that your original plan will ever work. Instead, be prepared to rely on contingency planning while setting goals. I had a feverish discussion actually about this, whereas the other person was presuming that I was planning for failure – and this is not the case. Failure is having only one immutable plan for execution and having that plan not come to fruition. There is a popular military saying that no plan survives first contact and a correlating civilian saying that states no plan survives a punch in the face.

Always expect a punch in the face. Assume it will happen and move forward.

…make wise choices,


…picking teetsie

May 26, 2012 Leave a comment

On more than a few occasions I have discussed the notion of decisive action. As such, wise action often requires a fact base in order to propel us forward. In our personal and professional lives, we surround ourselves with advisors. Generally, those individuals are segmented based on numerous criteria, that often, is a combination of situationally based dimensions coupled with certain skills/knowledge.

What does one do when we have an advisor that is hell bent on giving the most ill-conceived feedback, that almost certainly has a high probability of poor results? Better yet, how do we handle those same advisors that stand to personally benefit from our failure?

I’ve said it before and I’ll said it again – Rule #1 is “Always be aware of your surroundings.” This is as much a geospatial construct as it is an interpersonal one, in that only through knowing those that you have around you – can you truly understand what motivates them.

…make wise choices,


…do you know how to operate your equipment?

November 28, 2011 Leave a comment

Something interesting happened to me this past weekend that I am compelled to share. I was taking the holiday photos of the children in the home studio, as we usually do this time of year. This year was especially challenging as we added a new one to the mix and he does take a little bit more coaxing than the older kids to strike that perfect pose.We were snapping away, while cleverly trying to keep the kids smiling and engaged. A juggling act, as we were also trying to have them look at the lens instead of my wife, who was standing slightly off camera.

After a bout 45 minutes or so, varying poses, begging, pleading and yelling – my softbox/strobe lights overheated. I scurried to stick on my on-shoe flash (remember folks I am a wanna be photographer here…) and had some serious issues with the camera settings as I had dialed everything in to use the off-shoe strobe flashes. Kids melted down….well I did actually…shoot over. Then, almost summing up the entire session, got the gentle poke of you just don’t know how to operate your equipment. At first my reaction was that of any normal person, angry and defensive…not a good recipe for the current situation….we’ll fade to black here and see how I can draw parallelism to the point I am trying to make.

The reality is that I was relying too much on post-processing (ala – Photoshop), versus really taking the time to learn the mechanics of all the equipment that I have invested in over the years. So there is the hook – do we as leaders of people invest the time to ensure that team members have the knowledge necessary to use the equipment that is at their disposal? At times, we spend money and time on acquiring new products/services with very little afterthought on intelligent sustainability.

Invest in learning as much as we invest in technology…

…make wise choices.



September 1, 2011 Leave a comment

It has been a while since I have posted anything new. Between life changing events and mini-natural disasters, its been a busy few weeks! One of the events that I’ll briefly discuss was my experience in moving homes. The drama of having a closing on my home sale and on the home buy within a few hours not withstanding, I learned (was reminded) of a few apparent truths. Keep in mind, this is related to my personal moving experience

1) In general, service people do not want to do their jobs. No matter what they say when they take your money…they do not want to do their jobs. This is truly sad, however, very consistent with 90% of my experiences over the past few years.

2) Given the opportunity, most people will try to cheat and deceive you for personal gains.

3) People are generally incompetent in most service industries, often relying on independent jobs rather than building relationships, knowing that repeat business is not part of their strategy.

4) Ratings sites are not an accurate representation of vendor performance. Angie’s List, ServiceMagic… are useless as no one will give a vendor a bad review as they know where they live, have a check from them…etc.

5) You are the ultimate expert and if you do not understand something – learn before you hire. There are plenty of resources out there to help arm you with the facts on most if not all projects you wish to undertake.

In short – we need to go back to the good old days where people just knew how to do things by learning. We have become dependent on so many external service providers, that we have lost a sense of self-reliance.

This needs to change.

…make wise choices,



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…architect or carpenter

June 30, 2011 1 comment

I have received a few questions on leadership vs. management…so much so that I thought that I would at least throw my two cents on this topic.

It is rather simple in my opinion, a leader is a visionary individual that puts together a compelling goal that inspires a fanatical Esprit de corps.

A manager executes the vision at the task level and ensures day to day delivery on milestones and alignment to goals.

Both are equally important – and fundamentally polar opposites of one another..

Which are you? Which do you want to be?

…make wise choices.


…what kind of impact are you making?

April 22, 2011 Leave a comment

RIP 12/5/1970 - 4/20/2011

Not Sure if anyone follows the plethora of conflicts that the US feels compelled to get involved in these days.  Not sure if anyone cares; while they sip their coffee, play Angry Birds and die a little bit each and every day. Recently, a brilliant accomplished Photographer, Director  & Film maker was killed by enemy action in Misrata, Libya.

Despite being wildly popular with his gritty photographic depictions of war on combatants and non-combatants alike – he kept on going, continuously heading towards danger.

Despite collaborating on books such as InfidelWar, which were considered very successful depictions of combat life in Afghanistan – he kept on going, kept on taking risks.

Despite Directing the film/documentary Restrepo which brings to life the somber facets of sustained combat operations – he kept going.

He left behind his stories and pictures – often of men that were injured and/or killed during his embedded tours and men that were broken when they came home. He was able to tell the stories of how some faced their deaths, which many family members never get to understand or experience – only wonder.

This is what kind of impact Tim Heatherington made upon this planet…what kind of impact are you making?

…make wise choices


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